Relational Energy Therapy has an emphasis on how we develop our energy bodies over our life span, as well as how we can increase our awareness of how we interact with others. The chakra’s hold developmental stages as potential and actual shifts in our consciousness, with links into the hormonal and the nervous systems, while the chakra cords transfer, or receive, energies from others.
I’ve named the sub-field within Relational Energy Healing that explores all of this, as “Astral Energetics”: the practical development of our energetic boundary, chakra function, chakra cord interactions, upon our relationships. In this context, “Astral’ refers both to our the Astral or Emotional Energy Body, as well our interactions with the non-physical reality of the spirit realm.
Some of this material can be studied in my Self Study Course: “Astral Energetics”, that serves as an introduction to my approach to Astral healing.
Astral Energetics, taught at the Relational Energy Therapy Diploma Course, will introduce important variations in our energetic interactions with others, so we can learn to minimize potential problems, and come to grow positive and nurturing relationships in our adult lives.
Here is a simple rule of thumb that those who explore energy consciousness as an auric field phenomena, can utilize:
1) Energetic relationship between equals: we experience a mutual flow of caring, self-responsibility, and generous exchanges that highlight the impact of other healthy individuals upon our energy consciousness system
Examples of this include an intimate partner with whom we share our lives, long-term friends, and spiritual allies that have not assumed a guru-teacher role in our lives.
2) Energetic relationships between non-equals: where only one person in the relationship is able to hold adult-level equality (mutuality) in their system, and the other person is either unable, or unwilling, to do so. This requires the equal-capable person to adapt and regulate their own needs in such a way that the relationship mentors, ideally without an unhealthy sacrifice on their own part.
Examples of this are with our children, or younger people than us who are still awakening into their full potential, as well as unequal relationships with others that require the equal person to contribute more than their fair share in order to manage the relationship.
3) Exploitative or self-serving relationships between an equal and another: in this category, there are definable strategies in the relationship with another that are designed to take advantage of the equal partner, for the benefit of the unequal one, and which ultimately drain a generous person of their life force. Over time, there can be physical or emotional health issues resulting from semi- to fully-toxic relationships, as the equal individual chronically overextends their personal resources in a vain attempt to make the relationship function.
Examples of this are relationships that are not evolving towards equality, as in category 2 above, nor are they functionally able to be equal, as in category 1. These are service relationships, existing on the agreement of one person to service the needs of another, but without the intention (or, in some cases, the ability) to attain a balance. There is a broad spectrum of exploitative relationships, of being used by the other, some of which we have come to accept as socially necessary, but many others that are avoidable, or can be mitigated with energetic changes to our personal boundary.
Within this category are those hostile towards us (overtly, or covertly) as well as seductive individuals who mask their intentions towards us. While hostility in 1) and 2) can be processed so as to develop the relationship further, this particular form of hostility (exploitative) needs a special skill set to be developed.
4) Non-relationships: those who cannot, or do not, acknowledge our presence in the world, and are not available for making contact or including us within their conscious awareness.
In other words, if we study energy field dynamics between ourselves and others, we must take into account both the category it is in (equals, non-equals, exploitative, oblivious) and adapt our responses and tracking ability accordingly. Life continually brings us all four categories, but we should not respond to them all in an identical fashion. In our relationships with other equals, we can be nourished and supported. In our relationships with non-equals, we can take on a role as parent, mentor, or being of service, as long as we have boundaries that allow our own needs to get met elsewhere. And, in our relationships with exploitative people, we should learn to mitigate their impact, or learn to avoid them altogether. Finally, we must have a strategy for those oblivious to our presence, and yet whose actions affect our quality of life. The choice is ours: adults as equals do pay an energetic price in all relationships that are not mutually functional, or exploitative. But we can learn to deal with it effectively, and avoid unnecessary suffering along the way.
Astral Energetics will be addressed at Module Two of the Diploma Course, scheduled for April 2017, in Amsterdam, The Netherlands.
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